Yes, I did in fact show up at a Con this year in Furry regalia. And of course, along with that came quite a lot of self-contemplation, as well as thoughts about reactions from the general Fan populace (not just Furry).
One of my biggest gripes about being called a Furry is that once that word leaves someone's lips, many people make the hyperspace jump from "liking animal art and anthropomorphized imagery" to "kinky sex fetish". I realize I can't control that link any more than any other word association or preconceived sterotype. However, I can at least contemplate where I draw the line.This
is me at this year's Con. Consequently, on the subtext of the thumbnail on the index page (this pic was taken by a stranger, and is not my site), the label is "So very yiffable."
This outfit, I admit (without trying to sound conceited), is sexy. I turned just about every head in the hallways I walked through, and that made me smile. Everyone I believe can appreciate being admired, though I personally detest it when it gets to the level of attention-mongering. I did not wear the costume for the sole purpose of turning heads; I wore the costume because I wanted to display my costuming skills, and the character herself is a joy to "play". Since retiring the character from play at my LARP, I have little opportunity save Halloween to wear her.
I will admit that I feel
much more "sexy" while wearing this costume. Normally I would be terrified of wearing a skin-tight body suit in public, but behind the mask I am emboldened. Now, just because I feel
sexy... does that mean I'm trolling for sex while wearing the costume?HELL NO.
Why am I constantly drawn back to the old and bigotted opinion that if a woman was sexily dressed, and was raped, she was "asking for it"? I would hope to whatever anyone holds holy that this idea is dying out. Yet... when one receives negative attention within the Fandom, such as any I may have received while wearing this costume, it seems like that idea is alive and well. What does it take to get it through people's heads that sexy and sex do not
Cats have through the ages been a symbol of sexuality, of feral passion and fertility. Looking at characters we play from a psychological standpoint, they often reflect "sides" or "facets" of ourselves that normally aren't as prevalent in the face we present to the general public. This costume is most definitely part of my sensual side, which is where I am torn -- I hate the idea of yiff and all the bad press that goes with it, yet I enjoy feeling sexy when dressed up as this tigress.
Does that make me hypocritical?